Marriage is not SOCIAL TRAP

Marriage as said, are made in heaven which continues to live in earth. Marriage is not only a bonding between two people but also between two family, two society and two cultures which should be handled with care, understanding, trust and love. It is a sign of agreement which makes couple to stay together no matter what consequences arise between them.

Marriage is universal, no matter where we would go in the world there is marriage. However the meaning of marriage might be different and the way it is done but it still exists all over the world. Marriage is sacred and not a social trap. It requires proper guidance for those who enter the married life.

Marriage is not a social trap. It is an emotional, psychological, mental need. As long as mankind has existed, man has always felt a need for having a woman in his life, children, and to create and raise a family and the same goes for a woman.It is bond of two relationshipsthat’s nothing but two heartsas one soul to spend the entire life happily. Parents will not be with us every time and everywhere, so there is a need of  someone who is always with us every time-everywhere and supports  us in every aspects, it gives a meaning to life by giving a new generation. Rituals and customs establish public relations with friends and relatives that keep an individual strong psychologically. On health perspective, having only one committed partner will keep a person away from the contagious diseases communicated through physical contact.

Marriage brings the stability in the unstable life of a youth to become responsible person. It is the requirement of the society. It is helping our society to make stable. If there will be nothing like marriage then society will become unstable which will be very dangerous and unsafe for everyone. The feeling of being bonded with a person makes another feel strong that he/she has a soul mate, with which he/she can share everything.  Sense of belongingness inspires the individual to perform their obligations in social and professional areas. The pampered girl or boy transform themselves into responsible men and women after marriage.It provides a proper environment for children to grow up in, gives women security while raising children, and stabilizes the structure of society, preventing men from doing whatever they want.Marriage begins a family and Families are the building blocks of cultures.

The greatness of Hindu marriages is understood when we are in a very hard situation, the time when only our life partner will stay with us sharing our hard work and other people including our children try to escape. Every relation in our life will go away from us one or the other day but only life partner will stay with us till we are on earth expecting only love from us. There are women and men who are very much independent, single, no kids, living in their own home with their own luxury but they do want someone in their lives whom they can share their ups and downs with somebody to call their very own. It should be about working together, being together, yet at the same time having independent minds.After marriage it’s never ‘you’ or ‘me’. It’s always ‘us’. Whether it’s anything you do or any decision you make, it’s always the two of you taking a call jointly and not you as a single person.

Married women are significantly less likely to be the victims of violent crime than single or divorced women. Married men are less likely to be part of violent crimes than unmarried men. The social bonds created through marriage yield benefits not only for the family but for others as well, including the larger society. It is proved that Married couples build more wealth and earn more money on an average than singles with similar education and job. Marriage is good for the couple as it provides the optimal conditions for bearing and raising children.

Marriage is said to be healthy social trap. A trap for the existence of human being in earth. Marriage is created by our ancestor so that we human being can live a social life peacefully with trust and commitment to our partner. But when these trust and commitment get hurts, situation become worst and we feel we are trapped in marriage. Jealousy and Possessiveness can make the situation worst.However, if the partners are caring, understanding, love each other and trust on each other, and thenit’s a perfect bonding. But when it is affected by dowry, money, status, cheating, misunderstanding, ego, wrong attitude, selfishness then it ends in trap. Marriage is a social obligation. There are sometimes many demands from groom side. Marriage gives family pressure. Marriage for a girl becomes a trap if she is not satisfied by her new in-law family, she can’t even break the relationship as she is bonded to the society. No marriage is perfect and we would witness marital conflicts, some leading to separation, divorce, violence but many survive even in periods of adversity.Those that endure this conflict and find ways of addressing them are the real heroes and heroines in marriage.

Marriage is all about give and take. Marriage is different for different people depending on their perceptions, understandings and trust. As long as we respect each other’s feelings and emotions the journey will be smoother else it will be tough and both feel they are trapped. Being together, having no mutual respect, feelings and understanding certainly make the marriage, “a social trap.”There could be conditions where a marriage becomes social trap but it is totally depend upon the married couple how they handle their problems and bad situations in their life and support of each other. It is a place where we find more love and affection after your parents.The mentality -‘Men earn and wife is home-makers’ have changed now. Both the partner earns and manages their home together with none considered less than other.

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