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TILAK CEREMONY

Indian Marriage is a grand and elaborate affair. The wedding celebrations begin days before the actual wedding day and last 2-3 days. The pre-wedding rituals are actually traditional customs that are considered to be auspicious for the wedding as well as the married life of the would-be couple. It helps to develop thefamiliarity and the bond between both the families involved. These pre-wedding rituals include several ceremonies like Roka, Sagaai, Saga, Sangeet and Tilak.Tilak is the initial and  vital pre-wedding ceremony in India. The commencement of the wedding alliance begins from this ceremony itself. In some caste it is called the Chenkai Ceremony. After the wedding is fixed, the first ceremony which locks the seal is Tilak ceremony. The Tilak ceremony is performed in most of the family according to their personal family tradition and culture. It is held in all parts of the country with varying degree of amusement and excitement. Since the religion and culture varies from one state to other, the mode of celebration of Tilak Ceremony is also according to different culture and caste.

The ceremony is held at the groom’s residence or at any temple because according to the Hindu custom only the groom is eligible for the tilak ceremony. Traditionally, the bride and her mother do not attend this ceremony. It is usually attended by the male members of the bridegroom. The father of the bride along with other associates visits the house of the groom. There he applies the auspicious tilak on the forehead of the groom to ensure that the he is finally ready for marriage and also that the bride’s family has accepted him as their would-be son in law. The actual motive behind its celebration is to enhance the bonding between the two families.

Tilak belongs to the auspicious Hindu custom. But there are different types of Hindus and their customs are very different from the counterparts. But Tilak and its inviolability is known far and wide. Therefore it is usually held in all parts of India accompanied with rituals and merriment. Many Hindu families believe in Muhurt, which is auspicious time told by the priest to perform a wedding function. As the Muhurt approaches, the family of the groom waits for the father of the bride and other male members to come to their place. As they arrive both the members of the family greet each other by Namaste and hug each other.

The thali of tilak has a special bowl that contains a paste of sandalwood, saffron, and paste of kumkum, oil and lamp of ghee.

The Tilak ceremony begins from a pooja or havan where the bride and the groom’s family pray for a happy and auspicious future of the would-be couple and the priest chants mantra to seek blessings of the Lord.Aarti of groom is performed and he is asked to keep a piece of cloth on his head. After this the brother of the bride applies tilak to the groom as a mark of respect and acceptance. The consecrated moment a kumkum tika on the forehead has special significance. It indicates the pouring of blessings on the couple. Bride’s brother then endows him with gifts such as clothes, sweets, fruits, flowers, garlands and token money as a shagun.The groom’s father in turn gives mehendi, jewelry, clothes, sweets, coconut, sugar, rice and henna to the bride’s family. The entire Tilak Ceremony is followed by much merriment and entertainment.  All the other male members of the bride’s family such as uncles, cousins etc also perform the same ritual to state their loving approval of the groom. Kumkum is a sign of auspiciousness.

In few parts of India, Tilak ceremony is held in the households whereas in other parts of India, Tilak ceremony is held in worshipping venues. The ceremony is followed by refreshments to celebrate the new accord between the families. A large feast is organised by the groom’s family to celebrate this occasion. The Venue is decorated with colourful curtains and flowers. The colours vary from orange, red and maroon. There are also some other drapes used with handcrafted work to ensure better taste and design. Tilak ceremony is based on the archaic Indo-Aryan style of worship. It evokes a spiritual calmness and a personal sanctity which is of prior importance in a marital bondage.

In Sikh religion, the ceremony is performed by a preacher or bhaiji from the Gurudwara who first recites the hymn and after that offers the groom a date and applies the tilak on his forehead, marking the engagement. However, in most of the communities of Hindu religion, the Tilak is applied by the bride’s brother on the groom’s forehead. Tilak ceremony is also called Teep in Bengali and as Pottu in Tamil and Malayalam.

In north India like Bihar, Uttar Pradesh, The bride’s brother carries a pot of silver or copper, in it he has coconut and mango leaves. He places 3 plates on the pot, the first platter is filled with husk covered rice coloured red or yellow, supari turmeric sticks. The second ‘parat’ contains yellow rice and Rs. 51/- also coloured yellow. The third ‘parat’ contains dry fruits and sweetmeats.Every gift and ‘puja’ item being carried for the ’tilak’ ceremony has to be touched by the bride before it leaves the house. All gifts are demonstrated in the courtyard before the ceremony commences. The bride’s brother applies a ‘tikka’ on the groom’s forehead and garlands him. He then puts the pot down; the groom touches the pot and puts it back. Similarly each and every gift brought by the bride’s brother is touched by the groom and put aside one by one. Post which the entire gathering shower their blessings with akshat or coloured rice.  All the five males from the bride’s family receive gifts called Samang from the groom’s side.

Tilak Ceremony lays the foundation for a healthy relationship. After tilak ceremony the preparations for marriage progress with leaps and bounds. The pre wedding ceremony involves some agreement, often unwritten. The declaration on the lagnapatra demarcates the shouldering of responsibility by the groom. Tilak Ceremony epitomizes that responsibility along with love and purity of heart.

PUNJABI WEDDING

Punjabi marriages are known for their pomp, show and entertainment. They are conducted lavishly and celebrated with extreme gaiety and comprise of traditional folk dances such as Bhangras and Giddas. Punjabi’s are characterized by their generosity to guests with majestic dining and ample entertainment.There are number of rituals, which are performed before and after the wedding.

  • Pre Wedding Rituals
  • Takha/Rokka ceremony :

The first pre-wedding ceremony in a Punjabi marriage  is Takha. The takha also known as Rokka. In this ceremony, the boy and the girl commit to enter a wedlock, and won’t consider any more matrimonial proposals and both the families would stopped searching for a marital partner for their children. Ardaas is done, followed by exchange of gifts, sweets to the boy by the girl’s family and to the girl by the boy’s family. The girl’s mama ji gives her the nose ring which she would wear on her wedding.The ceremony usually takes place at the girls place. The wedding date is fixed after rokka.

  • Sagan :

The next is Sagan ceremony which usually takes at the groom’s house or may be at hotel or club. In this ceremony,the girl’s father applies the “tikka” on the boy’s forehead who takes the blessing from the girl’s family members. Each of the relatives and friends present from the girl’s side then offers sweets to the boy and gives gift.

 

  • Chunni Chadana :

The Sagan is followed by Chunni  Chadana ceremony in which  the groom’s family visits the bride’s house. The groom’s sister or sister-in-law presents the girl a red sari. After this, the mother-in-law places a red chunni on her head and gives her jewellery. The boy and the girl exchange rings and the girl

 

  • Sangeet and Mehendi Ceremony :

Few days before the marriage, the relatives and friends get together for singing sessions both at the boy’s as well as the girl’s house every night. One day is fixed for special sangeet session which is attended and celebrated by both the sides together.

In Mehendi ceremony, the sister and brother-in-law of the groom take mehendi to bride’s place. This mehendi is applied to the bride’s hands and feet. 

  • Wedding Rituals at bride’s place

The first ritual on the wedding day at the girl’s home begins with the Chuda ceremony. The  maternal uncle and auntthose performing this ceremonykeep a fast till chuda. Chudais  a set of red and cream ivory bangles that is touched by all present in the ceremony which is gifted by girl’s Mamma and the girl does not see the chuda until she is ready for the marriage. After the puja, everybody present touch the chuda, in a manner of offering their good wishes to the girlfor her future married life.After that, the relatives  tiekaliras to a bangle worn by the girl.

Four lamps are lit and the bride is made to sit in front of lamps. Oil is constantly added to the diyas so that the glow is reflected on the bride’s face. A paste of turmeric powder and mustard oil is applied to her body her female friends and relatives.After this ritual the bride is made to stay at home in her old clothes for a couple of days and bride and groom are not allowed to meet before her wedding.In Ghara Ghardoli, the bride and the groom bathe with the water brought from the Gurudwara.As per the tradition, their wedding dress is presented to them by their respective maternal uncles. 

  • Wedding Rituals at groom’s place

Like the bride’s home, the Vatna and Ghara Gharoli are followed by the dressing up of groom in his wedding attire.The groom is also applied with a paste of turmeric and mustard oil and is bathed by water brought by his sister in law from the temple and his maternal uncle presents the wedding attire. The boy’s father or an elderly relative ties “sehra” on his head. A pink colour turban is first touched by all the relatives present before it is tied on the boy’s head. The groom’s bhabi applies surma  on his eyes. The Ghori Chadna is the final ceremony at the groom’s place.The boy climbs the horse and leaves his home for the wedding venue.

  • Rituals at the wedding venue 

The Ardas is performed by the priest followed by the formal introductions of the male members of both the families. In the Milni ceremony, the girl’s relatives give shagun to the groom’s close relatives. After Milni ceremony, the bride and groom exchange the garland made of flowers- varmalato each other.Asmahurat approaches, the boy is led to the “vedi” where the pundit performs puja for the boy. There after the girl is led to the “vedi”. Then the “kanyadaan” takes place where bride’s father puts a ring on the boy’s finger and then he gives his daughter to the boy. Thereafter the couple takes the phera’s round the holy fire. After this the groom applies sindoor on the girl’s hair  and ties Mangalsutra to the girl’s neck.After completion of  all wedding rituals , the couple touch the feet of all the elder members in the family and seek their blessings for a happily married life.

  • Post Wedding Rituals

After wedding, the bride leaves for her marital home and throws back handful of rice towards her parental house. This is known as Vidaai ceremony. The ritual conveys her good wishes for her parents.A sad ritual as bride says goodbye to her parents, siblings and rest of her family. Her brothers take her to her husband and her relatives throw coins in the wake of this procession.

The mother-in-law or sister-in-law circles 3 times a glass of water around her bahu and then offers her to drink the same water, as a symbol of her acceptance and gives blessing. She also performs the traditional aarti and asks the newlywed couple to come inside and seek the blessings of the God.Then the bride kick the mustard oil by her right foot that is put on the sides of the entrance door before she enters the house. After this couple touch the feet of the elders in a ceremony called ‘mathatekna’

 

 

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Navratri is a big festival of Hindus. Navratri Festival celebrates for worship of Maa Durga. Navratri is most popular festival of India which is celebrated every year in different states of India.

This special day is celebrated to Honor the victory of Goddess Durga over Demon Mahisasura. Navratri is a nine day festival.

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Fun Games at Indian Weddings

Indian arrange marriage system did not allow the bride and groom to meet prior to their weddings.Hence many Indian weddings games evolved to break the ice between the newly wedded couple. These games are practiced till now in many of the marriages to create a sense of unity and understanding between the couples and the members of two families. The Indian Marriages are a delightful series of ceremonies that continue for weeks. These celebrations, fun and games continue to make a wedding something to cherish and remember always. Indian weddings are the liveliest knot tying events worldwide. The fun and games right through the wedding endear the bride’s friends and relatives to their counterparts.These games have some or the other interesting rituals attached to them. The funny and light-hearted games help to unite the two families.

Here are some of the games:

HIDING THE GROOM’S SHOES

The groom always removes his shoes before sitting down for the wedding ceremony at the Mandap as a matter of reverence for the chants.The groom’s friends guard the groom’s shoes because bride’s sisters,female friends and relatives hide the groom’s shoes and demand the groom a lump sum amount of money. The shoes are normally “allowed” to be stolen for the sake of good humor. These shoes are given back to groom after some good matured bargaining when the groom agrees to pay a price to get them back. This game is generally for younger crowd and it breaks the ice between both sides and is accompanied by lots of laughter and leg pulling. Though initially this game was practiced in north India but now it is played in many other states also. Many grooms have started getting gifts like gold ring, earrings, anklets for their sis-in-law.

FIND THE RING

The game of ‘Finding the ring’ is commonly played among almost all cultures in India. A gold ring is placed in a large bowl of milk or colored water filled with rose petals and the bride and groom both asked to search the gold ring in the bowl. Whoever gets the ring first is the winner. It is believed that the person who gets hold of the ring first rules the relationship and if both find the ring in equal number, it is believed that there will be a sense of balance in understanding and decision making between the married couple.This game is organized after the wedding is over and seeks to make the bride more comfortable in her new home.

GAANTH KHOL – UNTIE THE KNOT

One hand each of the bride and groom are knotted together by a string. A sacred red thread around one of the brides wrists and likewise on one of the grooms wrists. When the game begins, the bride has to untie the thread tied around the groom’s wrist and the groom has to do the same for the bride but with only One hand. Both have to work together to release this in the presence of a large crowd of relatives. Whoever wins is believed to have the upper hand in the household decision making

PILLOW SPEAK

This is the game played after the wedding has been completed. It is fun game for the couple but enjoyed a lot by audience. The couple sits facing in opposite directions with a pillow between them while one of the relatives ask the bride and groom with questions one at a time. Responses by both are only allowed by nodding the heads in yes or no direction.The questions are hilarious like “Will you pamper like a child if your partner gets angry” or “will your rule over him/her”. This game gets the brides mind off her parents as the first few days after a wedding can be quite depressing. Lots of laughter in this game as some of the questions are targeted at members of the family. According to score newly wedded couple are given ranking.

GRIH PRAVESH

This game is played on completion of the wedding ceremony once the bride arrives with the groom to his house. The grooms sisters block the brides’ entry at the door to the house and insist to bride to bow her head to covered heap at the doorstep. The bride dutifully bows her head in respect to the family and after which it is uncovered to show a heap of shoes or pile of old footwear. This game is fun filled with giggles and attempts the cheer the bride and liven her up and bride get number of friends in the process.

FINDING THE GROOM”S NAME

This game is played by the bride and groom after the wedding. The bride traditionally gets the groom’s initial written in intricate pattern in her palm with Mehandi. The groom has to find out the letter from his wife’s hand and give her gift. This game gives the reason to groom to hold the bride’s hand and allow shy bride to feel the warmth of her husband’s love. This game was developed basically for the bride and the groom to get playful and comfortable with each other especially in the case of an arranged marriage.

The few other games in different tradition and culture are like kaleera ceremony  in a Punjabi wedding where the bride shakes the kaleerein over the heads of all the young girls at the wedding and whoever receives a part of the kaleerein is believed to be getting married next. Kissing game –It is generally played in south India. In this game groom is asked to hold the betel leaf in his mouth and then bride has to bite off the other half in front of the entire wedding party. It builds a anticipation among the married couples.Rasogulla eating competition is held between the two families in Bengali weddings. The family that eats the maximum number of rasogulla wins the game. In Parsi wedding, the groom is made to immerse the hand in water and not allowed to take it out until he gives gift to the bride’s sister.

 Fun and games at the wedding makes the Indian wedding colorful and vibrant.